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26 September 2011 1,222 views 9 Comments

Dunia kembali dikejutkan dengan kematian seorang remaja berusia 14 tahun akibat bunuh diri di Amerika Serikat. James Rodemeyer mengalami bullying karena orientasi seksualnya selama setahun terakhir di berbagai situs social media. Kadang kita dengan mudah mengatai orang yang berbeda dari kita dengan ejekan-ejekan yang sifatnya bercanda. Tapi ejekan tetaplah ejekan di telinga orang yang menerimanya. Sebelum bunuh diri, James Rodemeyer meninggalkan pesan terima kasih pada Lady Gaga, yang memberi semangat dan dukungan pada kaum LGBT di seluruh dunia lewat lagu-lagunya.

Kematian James Rodemeyer menunjukkan betapa rentannya remaja LGBT didera hinaan dan ejekan, bahkan terkadang oleh kaum LGBT sendiri. Dukungan kita untuk remaja LGBT selalu diperlukan agar mereka tahu bahwa keadaan akan lebih baik di masa depan dan bunuh diri bukanlah pilihan.

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Gay Buffalo Teen Commits Suicide on Eve of National Bullying Summit
http://abcnews.go.com/Health/gay-buffalo-teen-commits-suicide-eve-national-bullying/story?id=14571861
By SUSAN DONALDSON JAMES
Sept. 21, 2011

Jamey Rodemeyer sent out many signals on social networking sites that he was struggling with his sexuality, and although he encouraged others on YouTube to fight off the bullies, things didn’t get better.

The Buffalo, N.Y., boy, 14, killed himself this weekend after posting an online farewell.

A student at Williamsville North High School, Jamey had been tormented for the past 12 months by cyberbullies who made disparaging comments with gay references on his Formspring account, a website that allows anonymous posts.

“JAMIE IS STUPID, GAY, FAT ANND [sic] UGLY. HE MUST DIE!” one post said, according to local reports. Another read, “I wouldn’t care if you died. No one would. So just do it :) It would make everyone WAY more happier!”

Friends reported the bullying to guidance counselors. But everyone, including his mother, thought he had grown stronger.

His death coincides with a national summit today sponsored by the U.S. Department of Education in Washington, D.C., an effort to stem the toll of bullying on school children.

Speaking at the second annual Federal Partners in Bullying Prevention Summit were the parents of Justin Aaberg, a gay 15-year-old from Champlain, Minn., who hanged himself after being bullied. The parents, Tammy and Shawn Aaberg said that one form of the bullying came from a student religious group whose members told Justin that he was going to hell because he was gay.

“Justin was a smiley, happy boy who loved to play his cello,” said his parents. “School systems need to do more to protect LGBT students from bullying, and not turn their back on them because of their sexual orientation.”

“Jamey’s suicide is a tragic reminder of the vulnerability of gay teens,” said Malcolm Lazin, founder and executive director of the Equality Forum, which focuses on LGBT civil rights and education.

“They are bullied and marginalized,” he said. “While some may say that Jamey took his life, it is unrelenting homophobia that murdered him.”

His mother, Tracy Rodemeyer, who did not return calls from ABCNews.com, told the Buffalo News that her son had been questioning his sexuality and had expressed thoughts of suicide, but had also been encouraged by good friends and was a “happy” and “strong” teen.

Friends described him as caring and friendly, and he had been seeking help from a social worker and therapist.

Captain Michael Camilleri of the Amherst Police Department told ABCNews.com he would not release details on how Jamey died.

“The special victims unit is looking into the circumstances prior to his death,” he said. “We are not sure if there is anything criminal or not.”

No bullying laws exist in New York State, according to Camilleri, so police would have to see if aggravated harassment charges fit this case.

According to the National Center for Educational Statistics, 28 percent of students aged 12 to 18 reported that they were bullied in school during the 2008-2009 school year. Bullying also slows down as children get older from a high of 39 percent of all sixth graders to 20 percent of high school seniors.

The most overwhelming form of bullying is done through ridicule, insult and rumors, rather than physical aggression, according to the report.

The rate of victimization among lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) students has remained constant between 1999 and 2009, the latest date for which there are statistics, according to the National Climate Survey conducted by the Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network (GLSEN).

Parents and educators say they face significant challenges in stemming LGBT bullying, particularly at schools where there are fewer resources and support groups such as gay-straight alliances.

“We have seen some positive signs in available resources and supportive educators and society is moving in a good direction,” GLSEN spokesman Daryl Presgraves said. “But it’s still very difficult to be an LGBT youth in school.”

@SepociKopi, 2011

9 Comments »

  • Ade Rain said:

    Deep condolence…

  • echi said:

    nobody can go back and start a new beginning
    but anyone can start today and make a new ending…
    lets make the world a better place to live
    for all kind of people….

  • christine said:

    temen temen jangan lupa, besok lusa 29 september mohon partisipasinya untuk memasang tanda pink triangle di account facebook, twitter, di tas, baju dan lainnya untuk turut berduka mengenang penyiksaan kaum homoseksual di kamp nazi 78 tahun silam..

  • she said:

    what a pity. Banyak bad news & tulisan patah arang & hati. sampai ada komen di tulisan lainnya,oleh siapa gitu..kl pesimis dan susah,stop jd L. Pakai traffic light aja, stop,ready,go..and safety belt. Drive safely on our life journey.

  • ananda said:

    semangat utk kaum LGBT…!!! biarkan anjing2 pada menggonggong… toh g ada jg diantara kita yg ingin terlahir sprti ini..apa daya jalan hidup yg mnggariskan demikian….
    jalani aj hidup sedamai mgkin, kawan…

  • christine said:

    dan, ketika tadi aku mengucapkan belasungkawa di salah satu pagenya si jamey ini, yang aku dapat malah bully serupa dari beberapa orang…

  • ananda said:

    @christine_ jgn dipikirin… yg penting tujuan kita baik….

  • tim said:

    oh why you look so sad?
    tears are in your eyes
    come on and come to me now
    ……….
    ……….
    i’ll stand by you
    i’ll stand by you
    won’t let no body hurt you
    i’ll stand by you

    *pretenders

  • -dai- said:

    Deep condolences. Duh, jadi bersyukur deh berada di lingkungan yang meskipun gak sepenuhnya LGBT-friendly, tapi at least gak terlalu membesar-besarkan masalah orientasi gitu~. Ternyata masih ada yang lebih parah keadaannya T^T

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